When I first read it, I read it from beginning to end. It was as if I had thought that a self-help book would read. With all the talk about ancient civilizations, mind parasites, and black and white magicians, I wondered who would get involved. If your beliefs create deep happiness in you, then I say: Keep them. When they cause problems, when the beliefs of others are different, the awareness of them can give you the choice of what you believe and what you let go. So many of our beliefs, concepts, agreements were presented to us as the “truth" when we were young, and we accepted them literally and totally. The beginning of the Four Accords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream" of life. The only dream they could give us was the one they were living, which they mainly got from THEIR parents, etc. I only suggest you read the four chords if you want to get a clearer picture from Miguel Ruiz`s point of view. Judging what Ruiz says about perfection based on his reference to John 1 (or what we commentators say about it) might be a bit premature. I think my view of the Bible would be quite diminished if I read only a few of the laws of Exodus, Leviticus, and Deuteronomy, or if I only read Thomas Jefferson`s opinion of the Bible. Of course, you can already feel in your heart that Ruiz does not handle his word impeccably when he writes about John 1.
We all have our own views on these kinds of issues. I also found it strange to judge a book by the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and by the elderly people who are the ancestors of the author of the book. For this reason, I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator had explained why he believes the four agreements incite people to behave recklessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer. As it stands, I maintain the idea that – Toltec or not – these principles are a healthy lifestyle and are consistent with best practices supported by modern psychology: they said, “I met a person who had read this book… ». All right. Obviously, they didn`t understand, and that`s why they crushed you. So you haven`t read the book and you`re able to express such strong opinions about the book? The study of Toltec history makes no sense when it comes to understanding this book. It`s like looking back on the ancient Hindu and deciding that yoga or meditation has nothing to gain. People have figured out how to manipulate their minds since time immemorial, and while they may have seen it in terms of magic or religion, the methods they have learned are not negligible for this reason alone.
We can now (better) understand what really happens when a person uses meditation, visualizations, etc. to change their thought processes. This book is nothing more than a guide to self-knowledge and love for everything and for everyone. Pushed to its limits, it frees you to be able to love those you might normally avoid because of the negative emotions they create in you. Being able to see the chain of events from something a person says to the emotional response within you is the foundation of many cognitive-behavioral therapies. You cannot control the actions of others in order to experience the emotional response you prefer, you can only control (learn) the mechanism behind your emotional response. In part 1 of this 2-part video, we learn about the “domestication" of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As young children, our true nature is to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we “should" be, and because it`s not acceptable for us to be who we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t.
When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The Four Accords help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. Agreeing with ourselves, not taking things personally, gives us the opportunity to look inward and find and change the old agreements and beliefs – mostly lies from our childhood domestication – that bind us emotionally and make us react. The author of the article accurately describes people`s “dream" of distorting what people say or do. It is a powerful gift of Toltec wisdom. I have not read this book and I do not intend to read it. I saw these 4 chords on the wall of a yoga teacher`s house and I must have laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonner, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hypermasculine ideas to improve us.
They can improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they involve that we need to be fixed and eventually lead to more self-judgment. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the masculine strength), it is necessary to balance it with the softer grip and accept the maternal qualities of the deep feminine. Truly loving oneself for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to non-judgment about ourselves and others and surprising firmness. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding, which involves knowing ourselves as an unlimited divine presence. Here is an improvised list of my 4 chords: (1) Give yourself a break – again and again How do we know the correct interpretation of Ruiz`s reference to John 1:1-5? We could break one of his four agreements and make an assumption about his intention. Or, if you are really interested in the truth, you can ask him. At first, I read the book and thought, Do people really believe all this? The discourse about ancient civilizations, black and white magicians and parasites began as a fork. The Four Accords©, published in 1997 and sold about 9 million copies. It has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life.
But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. “The Four Accords" has left a lasting mark on my life and I am sure this “easy to read" book will do the same with you. A classic, probably the most frequently given advice of modern times. Shouted at children on the sidelines of every sporting event, whispering encouragingly in their ears at critical moments in life. However, always doing your best in this context means something else. This fourth agreement binds the other three. Although life is difficult and it is impossible to get it right every time, it is important to continue to do your best at every moment. Your best now won`t be as good as your best tomorrow or maybe yesterday. Your best if your drunk is probably not as good as your best sober. Your best when you`re tired isn`t as good as your best after a long night`s sleep.
Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honored that someone of your stature is taking the time to read my message and clarify the meaning of the agreements. The author, Don Miguel Ruiz, skillfully translates it into four promises that you can give yourself every day. He writes them in such a way that his methods are easy to follow. Although the chords are sometimes oversimplified, this is still a great little book with heavy ideas. Focusing on one of these agreements can significantly improve your life and reduce stress. Focusing on all four can really change many people`s lives. If these suggestions are followed in a general and non-fanatical way, they can help you relieve a large amount of stress by helping you avoid thought and behavior patterns that create frustration, blame, hurt feelings, and other negative emotions. .